If you resist the idea of Oneness, you fear it : Oneness, self-identity, happy.


Oneness of Life

Do you get defensive or feel fear arise when someone mentions Oneness to you?

Why the distress with Oneness?

It is certainly not the “sameness” concept that many throughout history have tried to promote, rather just a recognition that we are all part of one something?

If you fear or resist the concept of your Oneness, it’s because it appears to challenge your individuality, your self-identity, who you think you are. But why, as you are already part of the Whole of life, made of the same “stuff” that everything is made of . . . why fear looking at yourself as such?
Why all the defensiveness? Does it make you happy?

It is because of the self-identity you have developed through the accumulation of your unique interpretations of your experiencing life that has become your individuality that you are defending and afraid of loosing, this has become who you think you are. This accumulated self-identity that seems separate you from all others, is what is challenged, not the You that is already part of the One Something that is all of life, all that exists.
This accumulated self, which some call the “False Self”, is put together by you, bit by bit, as you identify with things that appear to help you feel good about yourself. It’s not really false as it is based on your experiences, but it is not all of who you are.

The next question is, why did you need help feeling good about yourself in the first place? Because you were led to think that you were alone and separate from all others, from all the rest of life, as you grew up. The development of a self you can feel good about was all done because you thought you were separate, alone and of no value. Through developing this self-identity you gradually came to feel somewhat good about what it contained, it appeared this must be who you are. Through his self-concept then you continually seek to validate the perspective it is based on, that you are separate, and that it defines you. And since only through it do you think you have value to feel good about, you justify and defend it with all means.

Self-Identity appearing real

Does this make you an individual?

As this self-identity develops, you come to own it and it’s apparent individuality, just as you do a most prized possession. It is honored and protected as such in your mind. Your mind then, wanting to help you feel good, goes about doing so through validation, justification and defense of the claimed and owned self-identity. This is usually quite automatic and not in your awareness, at least until you make a point of looking at what you are thinking and why.

The Oneness of everything has been known by many for a long time, but just recently scientists have been able to detect the “particles’ or ‘energy’ that everything is made of, confirming that everything is of or from the same stuff.
You are part of All That Is before you developed a self-identity which you are protecting, validating and justifying as a way to have value and feel good about it.
Realize, you have always been unique, you were born that way, it is your way of being.
You have always had full value, as much as anything and everything in existence.
You have always had the ability to feel good just as you are, there has really never been a need to develop an identity in order to feel good.

So interestingly, it has been the acquired perception that you are separate and of no value, that you needed to develop a self to feel good about, which is what is keeping you perceiving your separation from all else, and thus the fear of seeing and facing your innate value and Oneness. The fear is actually a fear of loss due to the ownership of this identity, not what it is comprised of. All of your experiences and how you interpreted them are valid and real, it is just in claiming them to be all that you are that is the error, as you are far more than their sum. This self definition actually serves to limit you to what you see it as.

Be Happy

Be happy just because

Knowing your Oneness will not diminish your uniqueness, it will only help you see that you are more than an owned, restrictive, separating self-identity. It will not eliminate your individuality, rather it will add everything else to who you think you are, as you are of the entire Universe. You will see that your individuality existed before your experiences and claimed identity, as it is how you have been uniquely experiencing everything.

You can feel worthy and be happy without any reasons, or added conditions and definitions. When you know you are part of All That Is, you no longer feel alone and separate. You no longer fear the unknown as it is all part of what you are of. You no longer fear other people, as you and they are One, just with unique perspectives.

It boils down to a choice of basic foundational operating perspective, either separation or Oneness. Your thought and behavior will follow in support of either perspective.

You are either One with All That Is, and at peace with life . . .
Or, you can think you are separate, having to create value through an identity, and fight everything and everyone for what the identity claims as the ‘individual self’ in order to feel good.

I suggest choosing Oneness, it’s much easier to feel happy!


John Halderman

I've been studying about life, how it works and what we can do with it for over 30 years. This has included many religions, philosophies, spirituality, psychology and sciences along with my own personal discovery and growth. Through all this I have come to feel we are all of one source. We have many varied descriptions of this source and our role within it, with a thread of commonality running through them all connecting our oneness. I feel that our putting more attention to this oneness is what will bring us together as one operating force of love and understanding. It is my purpose to help oneness and unity to become our functional reality. John Halderman

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